It has felt like a year of chasing dreams while mounted on a three-legged, one winged Pegasus through a meteor shower. The heaping bowls of crap I have been feeding myself had left me bloated. The rhetoric that was rolling through my head sounded something like this: ‘you can’t do that because you don’t have the money’, ‘this is too hard, you don’t have what it takes’, and ‘you can’t possibly think you are good enough to do that’.
Tickets, Tickets, Please
One small stone on the track and the entire bullshit train would be stalled in Doomstown for weeks. I tried very hard not to let the outside world affect me. But honestly, the constant barrage of deaths, unfathomable remarks from those in leadership roles, and the ridiculous media frenzy of ‘news’ is nearly impossible to buffer against. There was no shortage of blips and snippets to deepen the derailing grooves in the tracks.
The taste of regret lingered in my mouth like that of a Monday morning after a competitive drinking weekend. All of the roads that were left unexplored were being traveled inside my head… What if that choice would have been made instead of this one? I should have seen that coming. What was I thinking would happen?
The stench of rotting unrealized potential wafted through the air as my dreams decomposed beneath my feet. Inside the same day, there could be a registration for the specialized training for the business, which was quickly followed up by applying for full-time employment. One must keep all options open, right?
My old nemesis had quietly snuck into town on the last train and had set up camp in my own front yard. Not Enough is her name and doubt is her game. And this time she brought the whole damn clan. Scattered through the lawn like creepy gnomes, each one offering an insecurity, hesitation, or blatant self-sabotage.
Then I came across this quote: “The amount of energy necessary to refute bullshit is an order of magnitude bigger than to produce it”, by Alberto Brandolini. My first thoughts were focused on the external BS that others try to feed me. But it soon became clear that it was me, ME that was both the producer and the refuter. It was not the outside BS production that was fertilizing the gnome filled lawn, it was ME!
While I continued to re-read Brené Brown’s, Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone, I found a passage that seemed to articulate what my soul was experiencing.
“True belonging is the spiritual practice of believing in and belonging to yourself so deeply that you can share your most authentic self with the world and find sacredness in both being a part of something and standing alone in the wilderness. True belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are.”
I had been trying so hard to fit in and belong that I lost myself in the hussel. I had been acquiescing and stifling my true self in an attempt to be part of something; something that can only accept my authentic self. I can be authentic only when I believe that it is safe to be vulnerable. To be vulnerable, I must trust and believe in myself.
So, I am refueling the train with the now sun-dried BS patties and pulling out of Doomstown, waving goodbye to the creepy gnomes as we pass by.
What crap are you producing? Are you ready to explore the wilderness? Do you remember who you really are?
I have found that my training as a Reiki Master Teacher has offered a fountain of inspiration along my personal trek through the wilderness.
If you are ready to explore, check out these classes that could help you reconnect with your truth. Start with Reiki 1 and 2, now being offered in Stroudsburg, Bellefonte, and Lancaster. Open to all that are ready to explore. Offering CEs to massage therapists and nurses. Check out the schedule here.
I have been quiet for several months. It finally feels like I am finding my footing again.
It seems like so many of us have been going through a metamorphosis of sorts. The last few weeks have me wondering…
Does a caterpillar know it has wings?
I will be honest; maybe too honest…I have been hiding from many of my friends and neighbors. The current state of affairs in the world had me feeling very raw. Spending even a few minutes on social media felt like salt in the wound. There were so many polarizing posts and fearful, frightened folks lurking around every corner. The intense shouting, screaming, and fists in the air – nobody listening to the ‘other.’ The sharks always circling, just waiting to interject their next exclamation of protest.
I found myself struggling to get out of bed in the morning and the stench of anger wafting through the air was nauseating. I was not just Oscar the Grouch grumpy; it was full-fledged, ear steaming anger. I was sick of the opposing sides bullying each other to the point of adult temper tantrums. I realized I was slipping through the cracks and being dizzied by the vortex of fear. I find my views fall somewhere between walking the streets with a crocheted pussy on my head, and lawful killing of animals while they sleep. I had, in fact, built my own wall and was turning away ‘refugees’.
I decided that what I could do was focus on me.
I started going to the gym – yes, inside where the equipment is 😉 I visited a new medical professional to look at things from a different angle. I switched up some of the supplements, food choices and went searching for even more personal development tools. And next week, a commitment I have had for the last two years will dissolve. With all these changes, I am hoping that my time inside the chrysalis of 2017 is coming to a close.
Emerging with wet wings that quickly dry and a clear aura are my goals for the next few weeks.
While I gain strength and stamina, I share with you what has been maturing in the Inspired Holistic Wellness cocoon. There are more details on the calendar.
- Medical Reiki ™ Workshop on June 24 and 25 in Bellefonte (Reiki Masters only) – Deposit due April 21st
- I have applied for approval to award nursing continuing education credits for Reiki classes.
- PA State Board of Massage Therapy determined that Reiki CEs will still be honored toward license renewal requirements.
- The next Reiki I and II class is at Sage Continuing Education on June 10 – 12.
- Added Friday evening hours. You can now ease into your weekend. Check out the on-line scheduler.
- Special discount on in-stock products for my loyal followers. 20% off sale extended through April. Just mention “spare change” when you shop.
- Classes are returning to Arlington, VA this fall.
- Office closed May 5 while I tag along on a field trip with my daughter.
- Office closed May 16 – 23 while I travel for training.
- Acupuncture is now being offered on Thursdays in my office. Contact Thomas Jordan at 814-470-7080 directly to schedule your session.
- We are creating an additional office at the Indigo Wren’s Nest Wellness Centre. If you are looking for a quiet place to work or see your holistic focused clients, give me a shout.
- Currently reading “Breaking Free from the Victim Trap” by Diane Zimberoff. Have you read this already? Your thoughts?
Even when things appear to be dormant and crunchy on the outside; there is great change happening.
How are you coping with the changes in your life? Do you retreat inside your own walls?
Best wishes for a delightful spring.
I really tried to be nice, but there was this thing, and then they, and I – well….
I know you are making a list, checking it twice and your going to find out…
I am not always nice. Please, let me explain…
‘Tis the season to give pause and offer a moment or two of retrospection as this year quickly draws to a close. One thing is for certain, these past twelve months have brought forth a steaming pile of change. As I survey the topographical horizon, it can be a challenge to climb high enough to catch a glimpse of January 2016. So I have resorted to Google calendar as my periscope.
On the home front there were piano lessons for a teenager; which have given way to the trumpet and marching band. There was also lots of planning for a collaborative workshop that was squashed by a snow storm. The summer brought about the beginning of my fourth year of focusing mostly full time on my soulpreneur business; in between transporting the trumpeting teen to her first job and the plethora of summer time adventures. As fall began to settle in, the schedule became a bit tighter. As long as everything was on schedule, we kept chugging along. The cooler weather also brought opportunities for me to share Reiki classes in other locations – another amazing blessing! I was also able to attend the Mid-Atlantic Reiki Conference where seeds for 2017 were sewn.
Looking pretty good so far, right?
However, as I begin to traverse the core landscape of 2016, I exhumed some skeletons that might bring into question which list my name may appear. There are a few times when I spoke harshly; well okay more than a few but I truly tried to suffocate the thoughts. More often than not, I kept quiet while others were shouting, that should count for something, right? I so badly wanted to remain on the ‘nice’ list. The aspirations of developing the skill to artfully express my dismay of the vial garbage oozing into the atmosphere are still just that; aspirations. So the best I could do was keep quiet, most of the time.
Santa you know that for us bridge builders, 2016 has been a smoldering tinderbox. The political climate that has been festering, for way too damn long. The back draft of November 8th seems to have fully engulfed my structure. We have all endured the uninformed, antagonistic and blatantly incorrect statements from friends, family and co-workers. I do admit I found a bit of solace in the ‘unfollow’ options offered on social media venues. I have found comfort in the return of erectile dysfunction commercials and squeaky reindeer on television. However, I am left feeling like a day old soiled diaper as I enter into the final weeks of this year.
You see, being nice is really freaking hard sometimes.
I embrace the fact that we all have backstories that color our future. I also believe that no one person or group has the only solution. I want bridges in my life. I want to be able to cross over to the other side, visit awhile, learn a bit and even commiserate for a moment. It is possible that I may become better informed; more well-rounded and develop additional empathy by visiting over there. Yet, returning to home base and being with my tribe is where my soul feels warm and fuzzy.
It is likely that I will not see eye-to-eye with you on which list my name is found. However, I will share my wishes in hopes that my intentions are taken into consideration.
I would like you to deliver:
Respectful, articulate and well informed conversation.
Empathy, a steady and free flowing river that touches every soul.
Health – mental, emotional, spiritual and physical (I like green and purple bows).
Wealth – of courage to be ‘me’. Authentic, genuine, and compassionate with myself and all those I connect with.
World Peace, I know this is a long shot but…thought I would put it out there.
Thank you Santa!
And to all…
As we navigate the on-slot of holiday cheer and move beyond the jingling balls, please remember – I See You. Your light is needed in this world. Let’s continue to build bridges between us and them.
Reiki is a gentle yet powerful Japanese technique that promotes stress reduction and relaxation. If you are like me and need a little help to bring this back into balance, give me a call or go on-line today to schedule a free 15 minute consultation.
What is hypnosis?
Hypnosis is a natural, relaxed yet focused state of mind. This is what might be referred to as being in the ‘flow’ or the ‘zone’. You are completely aware of what is going on around you but you choose to concentrate on the voice of the hypnotist. It feels very similar to the sensations when you are in between a state of sleep and wakefulness. All hypnosis is self-hypnosis; you decide to work with the hypnotist to guide you into this profoundly powerful state.
Can you make me do something I don’t want to?
You are in control and can stop the session at any time. Since you are in charge, you are just as able to not answer a question when hypnotized as you are when you are not hypnotized. Together, we develop a plan so you may achieve your goals. You are able to accept or reject any suggestion offered by the hypnotist, even if it is something you specifically added during the planning interview. Your success is up to you, not the hypnotist.
Will I cluck like a chicken every time I hear the word corn?
No, not unless that is a goal you would like help achieving. Hollywood and stage hypnotists have created a meme that this great state of mind is highly dramatic. When employed as a technique for self-improvement rather than entertainment, it is a powerful tool to help ordinary people achieve every day goals.
Can I get stuck?
No. You are not crawling through tunnels or spelunking 😉 You are resting, while fully clothed and comfortable on a massage table or in a chair during the session. You will emerge from the session quickly and easily being fully alert and enthusiastic about achieving your goals. Remember that you are always in control and choose only to follow the suggestions that you accept.
What can hypnosis help with?
This is an easy one – everything! Seriously, everything from tobacco cessation, nail biting, sports performance, and study habits. Hypnosis is a technique to help you move beyond fears and limiting thoughts. Hypnosis is also a potent pain management tool that can be easily combined with other therapies.
Do you have more questions?
Book a complimentary 15 minute consultation to make sure hypnosis is the right tool to help you achieve your goal.
What are you waiting for? Let’s get started today.
This morning while watering the plants at the office, a question popped into my heart – “Are you watering your dreams or drowning your fears?” As the last few drops dribbled over the leaf, there was silence. No reply, not even from the reptilian brain.
Fall is my favorite season. In the Northeast US this is the time of year that we can observe the maples and willows releasing their leaves with great splendor. An attempt to hold on to those leaves would be a detriment to the longevity of the tree. Nature’s seasonal rhythm nudges me to, once again, review my own branches.
Is it possible to be a deciduous evergreen?
Can I release what is complete yet retain that which feeds my soul?
I sometimes get caught up in the winds of change while still clinging desperately to what ‘might have been’. Trying new things, implementing small tweaks or embarking on new adventures is very challenging when you’re gripping tightly to what has become a limiting pattern.
For me, one of the cues that it is time to let go comes from observing my thoughts. If I am flying the ‘should’ flag at full staff, additional attention is warranted. If the smell of obligation is wafting in the air as the banner flaps about, it is time to lower it. Maybe a good cleaning, packing it away in storage or even setting it free may be in order.
Lately I have been feeling frustrated by the ‘should’ of social media statistics. Every software application that a business owner can use offers ‘valuable’ insight into what is best received. The number of clicks on a link can begin to feel like a popularity contest or electoral opinion poll. I found that I was chasing increased statistics which reduced the amount of time available to spend with clients or being truly present with my family. I had fallen face first into the swamp of ‘more’ as I chased after numbers. I know better, really I do, but it happened.
Fear…Fear of not being good enough. Fear of financial instability.
I was drowning in my self-manufactured fear.
As a soul-preneur, it is not always easy to discern the needles from the leaves. I find the habits of yesterday were clogging tomorrow’s potential. If I could just release what has run its course, there would be room for real growth in the next season. By holding on to behaviors passed their season, I was stymieing my own natural progression.
Today, as I am putting my life jacket on and allowing the life raft to pull me ashore. I can’t believe I am doing this…I am releasing old growth from the previously coveted mass mailing list. I have spent years building this list. It has served me well and I will spend some time today honoring its service before I set it free. The mantra I use in times likes these is – Faith * Acceptance * Trust * Gratitude (FAT Grat). As I willingly allow this pruning, I know that releasing good will make space for great.
As I watch the leaves of social media statistics and stale email addresses fall to the ground, I refocus my intention toward watering my dreams. A dream of serving those that arrive in this newly created space until, they too, are ready to be set free. By releasing this ‘should’ I am making room for what my heart beckons – quality presence with family, clients and fellow light workers. I choose to water my dream of inviting togetherness that really matters. No more chasing numbers!
What this means is that I will send out free-ranging blog posts free of obligations to ‘produce’ something because it is Friday. I am releasing the email addresses that are stale without fearing that there are too few on the list.
I am following my intuition, not statistics.
Are you ready to water your dreams? Is it time to release a fear or limiting belief?
Reiki and hypnosis are amazing tools to help you achieve your dreams.
Check out what is happening this fall as I offer classes and private sessions in Bellefonte, State College and Lancaster, PA as well as classes in the Washington DC area.
We have all heard it before: “Forgiveness is the key to happiness.”
In Luke 23:34 we find the words, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.”
A Course Miracle also invests a great amount of time discussing the importance of forgiveness with statements like, “Forgiveness paints a picture of a world where suffering is over, loss becomes impossible and anger makes no sense. Attack is gone, and madness has an end,” in lesson 249.
Life can be challenging some times. Our bodies can feel dense and our minds quickly become filled with limiting thoughts. Then we add in the never-ending political campaigns and 24/7 ‘news’ being blasted at us, and soon the sensations of being attacked roll through. Like a cold front on a late summer’s day, these conditions are just right for a storm.
For me, there are situations in which ‘right’ is very clear – offering assistance to a wayward animal, lending a helping hand to those feeling overwhelmed, or taking a stance with a bully. However, there many more times when the concept of ‘right’ is very ambiguous. The idea that three lefts do make a right comes to mind here. The most direct route might be to take a right, but if you miss that turn, often times three lefts will also get you where you want to go; it just takes a little longer.
In my teens and early twenties, I seemed to have perfected the art of three-lefts.
I wielded harsh words, acted out, and explored with substances in an effort to numb my experiences. These choices led to some scary incidences and kept my guardian angels on high alert. Anyone that tried to steer me in the right direction was indiscriminately ripped to shreds in the blink of an eye. I would disconnect with these earthly advisers and dive right back into self-sabotage mode.
Today, I still struggle with situations where I have experienced the ‘wrong’ way to navigate life’s challenging moments. I want to spare others by sharing the wisdom gleaned from my ‘wrong’ ways – but, just like me, they are focused on their own right way. A wise man once told me that, “the smartest person is the one that can learn from another’s mistakes.” We can choose to fight for our right or we can decide to support those that are ‘wrong’.
Each time we impose our right on others, it has a weight.
I am working to become aware of my own arguing, defensiveness or feelings of defiant behavior. When the awareness rises I try to pause, breathe and ask myself: Is this right worth the weight? What is the impact of me imposing my right? Is this a safety concern or a chance support the ‘other’ while they find their own right?
As I make my way through the joyful role of parenting, I find that I am trying to share the same things with my daughter that my family tried with me. It takes great effort from me to listen to her words without the taste of disdain and regret from own youth. I will admit that this is exhausting some days. The amazing thing is that she seems to be much more open to the wise man’s ways than I was at her age.
Our rights add up and the weight compounds. Often, by the time we reach forty-something, we find that the burden of this load is more than we can bear. Forgiveness for ourselves and others is a powerful tool. Some of the forgiven rights may be like a grain of sand while others offer such a relief that the body finds a renewed spring in the step.
When my words and actions follow my heart, the right is worth weight for me. Lending a hand to someone is well worth the weight of a arriving at home a few minutes later. Offering a hug, cup of tea and time to chat with a dear friend in a time of need is worth the weight of getting up an hour earlier to finish the tasks that were put on hold. Being kind lightens the load of all the other bullshit in this world.
However, when I feel judgement rise up, notice my hand on the hip, or observe my finger wagging – the weight will be a burden that I do not wish to carry. For me, these are physical indicators that I am imposing my right. Verbally there may be cues like “because I said so” or “it is not up for debate, just do it”. Emotionally I can feel anger percolating in my gut. The practice of awareness is just that…practice. If I can bring focus to these areas, the weight of my right will shift.
How do you discern between ‘my way or the highway?’
When is it appropriate to speak up or walk away? I can’t answer these questions for you. Only you know what is right for you. I encourage you to be brave enough to lean into the possibilities of exploring the load you are carrying? What is the weight of your right for others?
I leave you with this question – Is this right worth the weight?
And when you are ready to try forgiveness, this affirmation may be helpful: I forgive you. I release you. I set you free. Not for you, but for me. This has passed and I am present.
Reiki and hypnosis are great tools to help sort through the weight of right. Are you ready to dig in? Schedule your appointment now. Evening hours are available Tuesday and Thursday.